I have posted our adoption Timeline on the side bar of my blog. The timeline was hiding under blog entries, back when I was figuring all this out. I think it will help people to see how long this really can take and where we are.
We feel your pain. We just returned from China with our daughter, Sarah. We just made it in before the swine flu shut things down. We also had to wait a very long time. We were initially told that it would take less than a year when we started. Four years later we finally got to go and get Sarah. Last May we became so frustrated with the process that we walked away from the whole thing and told our agency we were done until we saw a picture. Well, on December 31st we received the picture. We thought we were going to get her the beginning of February, but the invitation to travel came in another family's name! We had to send everything back and were told we may not get the same child - ugh! But through all of this God was faithful -- even if we were not. We now have Sarah and the only advice I can think to give you is look for the lessons God is trying to teach you through this agonizing process. It has changed us for the better, even if we didn't enjoy it. In the end, it is worth all the hassles, disappointment, and frustrations. You are in our prayers.
Jolene-- Yes, please feel free to follow our blog as I will be following yorus-it looks like we have a similar timeline for waiting for our LOA/LOC. We were LID before our LOI though. Lets hope this week we see some movement! Our boys are waiting!!
Please let Kacie know she will get her little brother. We, too, had our doubts during our wait, but it all worked out and Jake is a happy boy and we are all a happy family. We were frustrated with the wait, and it was just so hard knowing he was in China waiting for us and we couldn't go to him. We can only imagine how hard it is for her.
The bright pink province on the eastern coast is where Tyson is from.
Our Adoption Timeline
3/21/08: Met with Adoption Agency and met our home study service provider. Began the "paper chase" for nsn baby girl.
3/26/08: Ordered Passports; First Home Study Visit
4/21/08: Finished International Adoption Classes (a new Hague requirement) Decided to look into special needs adoptions after learning about special needs adoptions.
May 08: Second Homestudy Visit. Found out we needed child abuse clearances from when Dan was in the Military. Huh? What? From Iraq, Somalia, and Saudi Arabia? Also changed Home Study to say girl OR boy.
Summer 08....waited for clearances and just became numb to the whole process, thinking it would never happen.
Mid Aug. 08: Call from Home Study social worker. It had been determined that combat situations didn't require child abuse clearances. (Don't get me started.)
Mid Aug. 08: Home Study Complete!
Aug. 27 08: I-8o0A received at NBC/USCIS
Sept 6 08: Sent final pictures and paperwork for special needs
Sept 11 08: Officially decided to adopt a child with special needs, and it will most likely be a boy! We were open to either one.
9/18/08: Fingerprint appointment
9/19/08: LOI for our boy!
12/12/08: 104 days later, I-800a was approved!
1/5/09: DTC--Dossier to China!
1/21/09: LID (Log In Date) The wait for LOC begins!
4/30/09: CCAA make an announcement regarding Swine Flu.
5/26/09: LOC! Day 126
5/27/09: LOC mailed to CCAA in Beijing; I-800 mailed to NBC/Hague. (National Benefits Center/USCIS)
6/10/09: I-800 Approval (Hague for Tyson's Visa)
6/15/09: Paperwork arrives at National Visa Center (NVC)
6/19/09: NVC Cable to US Consulate in Guangzhou
6/30/09 (est): Article 5 from US Consulate--on to CCAA!
Thousands of starfish washed ashore. A little girl began throwing them in the water so they would not die. "Don't bother, dear," her mother said. "It won't make a difference." The girl stopped for a moment and looked at the starfish in her hand. "It will make a difference to this one."
We feel your pain. We just returned from China with our daughter, Sarah. We just made it in before the swine flu shut things down. We also had to wait a very long time. We were initially told that it would take less than a year when we started. Four years later we finally got to go and get Sarah. Last May we became so frustrated with the process that we walked away from the whole thing and told our agency we were done until we saw a picture. Well, on December 31st we received the picture. We thought we were going to get her the beginning of February, but the invitation to travel came in another family's name! We had to send everything back and were told we may not get the same child - ugh! But through all of this God was faithful -- even if we were not. We now have Sarah and the only advice I can think to give you is look for the lessons God is trying to teach you through this agonizing process. It has changed us for the better, even if we didn't enjoy it. In the end, it is worth all the hassles, disappointment, and frustrations. You are in our prayers.
ReplyDeleteJolene--
ReplyDeleteYes, please feel free to follow our blog as I will be following yorus-it looks like we have a similar timeline for waiting for our LOA/LOC. We were LID before our LOI though. Lets hope this week we see some movement! Our boys are waiting!!
Jolene,
ReplyDeletePlease let Kacie know she will get her little brother. We, too, had our doubts during our wait, but it all worked out and Jake is a happy boy and we are all a happy family. We were frustrated with the wait, and it was just so hard knowing he was in China waiting for us and we couldn't go to him. We can only imagine how hard it is for her.
You are all in our thoughts.
Kevin and Violet